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In the past couple months, I have found someone who has entered my heart deeply (let’s call him Hank). I try and try to shake him, however my feelings for Hank will not budge. I like him. A lot. And all I can think is “what is wrong with me, why can’t I stop thinking about him?” Due to the situation that I am in, I am stuck with these feelings- ew a crush- and not able to do anything about it.
(Is this what normal people feel like when they have a crush? This sucks. I have not ever been one to shy away from a crush and bury my feelings from them.)
These feelings began getting stronger and stronger. So, I went to my friends about it. I talked to all of them and begged them to tell me what I should do. I got absolutely nowhere. I got so many different opinions, but none of them felt right.
That’s when I realized what I was doing wrong. I was simply not searching my own heart and talking to God. All this time of searching for the right answers and I forgot to ask the One individual that created me. The One that has the answers to all of my questions. The One who put Hank in my life for a reason.
As soon as I asked God to guide my heart, to show me why it was hurting, He opened my eyes. I felt immediate peace. God didn’t put Hank in my life to torture me. He has a reason. He always does. Maybe He put this person in my life to bring me closer to Him. Maybe I needed something to nudge me back.
The more time I spent fretting about what to do with Hank, the less time I was spending with God. I began to drift. So perhaps God was using my crush to wave me down and shout, “Hey look! These earthly things that you chase will never fulfill you like my Love!” Maybe I needed a reminder that:
God, will never let me down
And God IS love
I still don’t know exactly why I like this person, or the exact reason why God would use Hank to potentially distract me from Him. But what I do know is that He wouldn’t do it without a purpose.
He is using this person in my life to pull me closer to Him.
We get lost. We are human. When we do, God uses someone or something to bring us closer to him. This has reminded me to not just talk to God, but be still and listen to him as well.
Whenever you feel you are lost, like you will never find the answers to the questions stirring in your heart, just pause. Take a deep breath. And stop asking people who are..well not God for answers that they can’t ever answer. Friends and mentors can give you advice but no one can give you peace like God can.
When none of the answers feel right, pray to God. He may not provide you with a direct answer, but he will remind you he does nothing without a reason. Just be patient. And let his love and peace fill you.
I hope you look back with affection
to that day
We laid underneath the stars
And reminisced about only the happiest of memories
That was the day, I thought your eyes told me you loved me
That was the day I remember looking at you when you laughed
and realized I wanted that laugh on my lips
That was the day I fell in love with you
Not the you that you are now
But the you I know you will be one day
Dapper, and oh so sweet
Sweet as flan
The man that
I know, will one day find the woman you love
and will surrender all other women for her
That’s the man I fell in love with
Not the immature boy you are now
But the man you have the potential to be
I expected that man
And you failed me
And you continue to disappoint me
Everyday it aches me a little to see, you make so many godawful decisions
That one day you will regret
That one day you will hopefully understand count for nothing in this world
I remember that day with fondness
No matter how we ended
Heart-wrenching, but only for me
Tragic, for no reason at all
Jealous, over someone who won’t ever love you
Bitter, at you for becoming bored with my smile
Mourning, the love we never shared
I love you despite all of the
Thick, black tar that is now
Sugar coating my heart
A constant state of forlorn
I love the man, I know you could be someday
Because you opened my eyes
Widened my horizons
I didn’t think I could have more than a friendship kind of love again
Thank you for showing me misery,
So that I would understand that it’s okay
to open one’s heart to the world
And remember that the man I will love one day,
Would never leave me like you did
-for my February Love
In today’s society I see people constantly struggling with who they are as young adults and teenagers. I myself have moments when I am so caught up with stress and worrying that I find myself drifting away from who I am. At such a tender age, teens are so easily swayed in their opinions and feel the pull of peer pressure as if it were a physically binding spirit reaching into our brains and tearing us this way and that. There are ways to fight this natural urge, this force. But one of the main ways I see people losing themselves is in relationships.
In order for a relationship (whether friends, boy/girl friends, or family) to be successful, there must be communication, feeling, time, and effort. Throughout all of this, we tend to give a part of ourselves to everyone we care about. Pieces of yourself are broken off and offered up on a silver platter of love. However, giving away pieces of yourself does not mean you have to lose yourself in the process.
I know this concept can be confusing. But in your relationships, know who you are and stand up for what you believe in. If you let others push you around or guide your likes/dislikes and let them tell you who you can or cannot be friends with, how can you ever say that you are your own person? I don’t know about you, but I never want to be anyone other than who I truly am. It takes patience, endurance, and tough skin. But it will always be worth it.
Listen to the song your heart is singing. Fight for what you believe in. Be yourself. And do not let anyone call you worthless. Be YOU before you are anyone else’s.
I created the No Spending Month money diet for myself because in February I will be turning 18, getting my driver’s license, and will be in the process of buying a car. Not only do I blow through my money the second it hits my bank account, but I put it at the back of mind and don’t think about my money spending responsibly. So, I’ve created a budget of sorts that is tailored for young adults and teenagers with a low paying job, that caters to their specific needs.
The first thing I did, was create and write down some personal rules that address my weaknesses.
- Allow 5$ a week that can be spent on non-essential purchases. For example, let’s say I am early leaving for school and I want to stop for donuts but I already have plans to go out the coming up weekend with a friend for coffee. I have to weigh my options and choose which of my wants is more dire.
- Can’t upgrade any food to a large. (Do you really need to make your fries and drink a large? The Answer is no)
- Cant buy myself food while I am working! This is one of my greatest weaknesses because it is so easy to be at work drooling over all of the food and talking myself into buying something because I went straight from school to work.
- Books rules! Anyone who has met me should know that I am a huge reader and a book fanatic. Books are my guilty pleasure! So I am only allowed to get books if…
- I am buying them from Half Price Books
- I am only using money that I have left over from the five bucks a week, and have saved it up for a certain book
- I have already checked to make sure the library and none of my other friends own the book
My four rules are pretty simple. They cater to my specific weaknesses and limit only purchases that are non-essential. The guidelines are not made to limit all of my money, just my extra spending. That way, I am still able to buy school books and day to day needs without worrying about spending my five dollars. Although these rules are specific to me, the intent for bringing this topic into my blog is so that I can encourage others to take on a similar challenge! If there is someone out there who knows that they need to be saving money this post is for you. Check out my plan, and make your own kind of budget that is specific to you and follows the general idea of my own.
I started this budget on January 9th. It’s only been two weeks, and it has been a much harder struggle than I thought it would be! I feel more understanding to what my life will look like when I tackle college and enter the years when I will be regarding myself as a “broke college student” then I ever have before.
The first week, I spent my five dollars one day after school on the way to work. Let me tell ya’, it was a miserable weekend not being able to go out with friends for a Saturday night out. The second week, I did everything I could to not spend my money until the weekend. I avoided Chick- Fil- A at all costs (my FAV), begged my friends to hold my wallet when we walked into Target, and keep me away from Harry Potter merchandise at B&N.
Somehow….. I made it! Not only did I get to the weekend without spending my precious 5 bucks, but when I did end up going out I did everything for free! I hit up an old friend to get free movie tickets and I used coupons when I went out to eat. So now, I have double the money to spend for next week!
I’ve begun this process and already I have started to get used to it. In a couple weeks I will update on where I am! Two weeks down, three to go.
Texting has grown since the beginning of the 21st century from a hobby, to an excuse to hide our faces and personal thoughts behind a digitized screen. For most, texting is no longer just used for planning dates, it has morphed into the entire relationship. Young adults and teenagers spend hours texting the people they are infatuated with, wanting to spend every waking moment chatting. The reason so many find their relationships dying after a couple weeks is because a couple cannot spend that much time talking to each other. You will get sick of one another! At the end of the day, who wants to come home and sit down to have a conversation and not have anything to talk about? The answer is, no one. To avoid this predicament, below are six rules about texting and relationships:
- You do not owe anyone a response! If you are going throughout your day and you get a text from your sweetheart, feel no obligation to respond. Perhaps you do want to talk to them but just don’t have the time. A ,“Hey, I’ll talk to you later tonight. Really busy right now!” never hurts. If they cannot deal with you having a life outside of your relationship, they are asking for you to give up yourself as an individual and that is too much.
- Use proper grammar. Who is attracted to someone who uses an infinite amount of bad grammar, to the point that you cannot comprehend what they are saying?
- Be flirty. You want to keep your companion engaged! You don’t want them to get over you before you have even truly begun to know the other person. Let’s say you meet a cute girl in the local coffee shop and you swap numbers. You do not want to get a couple texts in, and then she is already getting bored with you. Keep the conversation light and bubbly. Ask her about her day but keep it short and sweet, you don’t want her to become desensitized to you.
- Keep the conversation refreshing. If it is far enough along in the relationship (or you are just choosing to ignore ALL of my fancy worded, wisdom filled advice) and you are comfortable with the person you have spent a couple dates with, then it is okay to send a message with the purpose of more then just plans. However, make it refreshing. No one wants to respond to a dull, one worded text. And for goodness sakes, don’t start a text with a simple “Hey”. How unexciting is that? I know that personally when I get a “Hey” text, I almost always look at it and don’t respond. Keep it intriguing by asking a couple questions. For example, “Hey Zach! How is your day going? Btw, I rocked that presentation this morning, just like you said I would!” Short and sweet. Yet it shows that you truly are interested in the other person’s life. Don’t freak if they don’t respond right away. A text like this is worded so that if they don’t receive it until late, it isn’t a big deal and can still be answered the same.
- Take the hint. With all of this in mind, be aware of the context in the texts you are getting back. If you are getting one or two word texts, take the hint. If the other person is not spending the time to text you thoughtful messages, they do not care that much.
- Follow the three day rule. I live by and have avoided many unhealthy relationships with this. If you feel unsure of a person and where your relationship may go, then try this. Don’t text back for three whole days. I know that it feels like forever, but if the person you have been going on dates with doesn’t text you and see how you are, then they most likely do not care as much as someone should care about you.
You deserve the best out of any relationship! Take this advice and do something with it. Do not let anyone treat you like you are anything less than the magnificent beauty you are!
My name is Mattie Brooke. I’ve traveled around the sun 18 times and every year I grow more in love with reading and writing. I am awkward in a conversation unless it consists of books or music, and I am quite un-ashamed of my nerdiness. I gained my love of reading at a young age, starting off with Magic Treehouse Books and Judy Bloom masterpieces. This love for reading grew into a love for writing with the encouragement of many role models who saw me as the inspiring writer that I am. My blog´s purpose is to voice my personal words of encouragement and advice for teens and young adults.
To have your heart broken by somebody you love may be one of the most common types of heartbreak. We offer up a piece of our heart to someone in hope that they may be our future and that they will savor this bold sacrifice. But at the end of the day, more than half of the people we give our hearts to will not be the person we are destined to be with.
There are so many different views on dating, especially circling within the teenage world. However, one thing that teenagers just do not seem to understand is that going on dates does not mean a couple has to be boyfriend and girlfriend. The point of dating is ultimately to find the person we want to marry and more importantly, who God wants us to marry. In between all of the heartbreak and almost lovers that we will encounter, we must open our minds and hearts to new possibilities and seek God in all of our relationships.
In the Bible it says to guard your heart, and because of this, some people think that dating is something to be feared and that we cannot have a solid relationship with God, in the midst of an earthly relationship. I myself struggle with this. So many think that if God has someone picked out for us, we have to sit and wait, lonely, until one day this person walks up to us and declares, “Hey! I was praying and God told me that you are the one for me. Ready to get married?” Relationships do not work like that. God wants us to follow our heart and listen to Him along the way.
We have to date people to find out who it is we are destined to marry! When I say this, I do not mean every weekend go out with a new guy/girl and decide in that one moment whether or not he/she is the one. We are in high school and college and are just figuring out who we are. How can we find the person we want to marry yet? How will we ever? The trick is, to listen to your gut (Aka, the holy spirit working within you). If you feel a pull toward someone and you have a good time talking, take them out on a date. Go grab some coffee, chat, and see how you like the person. Figure out their interests and how they see the world. If you like talking to them, go out again. If you are on your second date and you realize that this guy/gal is really not the person you thought they were, then you have just gained insight on one quality (or several) that you DO NOT want to see in your husband/wife one day. Maybe they have values that are different than yours or they aren’t the true Christian you thought they were. Or maybe they just smack when they eat – ew – and have no respect for women. Even if you are not a Christian, this could apply to your dating life as well.
Talk to God and listen to what he has to say, what scriptures He is putting in your heart. Two of the biggest ways God has always answered my prayers is through my God fearing friends and family, and through writing. I have been praying upon this subject lately, unsure if I should open my heart to someone whose presence I enjoy. As I was praying, I felt God put this idea for a post in the palms of my hands; and I knew I had to write my thoughts down.
Dating is intended to be light and fun. It should not be a chore and you should not have to be afraid of getting your heart broken every time you go get pizza with the opposite sex. Enjoy dating! Have fun with it and remember that no relationship is a waste of time. All are bringing you to the person you will be with forever!